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Day 7: Your Opinion on Cheating.

I'm a firm believer that there is no excuse or reason for it. 

Love is a choice not a feeling. Lust and attraction are feelings and those are important to feel towards the person you're in love with. Love, however, is a choice you make everyday. You have to actively choose your person every day. 

It's easy to say, "I fell out of love and didn't mean to cheat" but that's a lie. You don't fall out of love, you choose someone else over your partner. You make a choice to hurt your person and blame it on something other than your choice. 

If you are lusting for someone else two choices arise: Choose your person or let them go so they can find someone who will choose them. You don't keep your person on the hook just to hurt them. Cheating breaks trust, hurts your partner and often makes future relationships for them hard or impossible. It's unfair in the biggest ways to your partner and that's someone you're supposed to love. 

I've never cheated, never wanted to, never been tempted, and never will. It's not in my blood. I was raised with loyalty being valued above most else. 

Once I've chosen someone to commit to I remain faithful. I never want to hurt the people I'm with so not cheating is the easiest thing in the world to me. It's easy to choose my person everyday. Especially right now, my boyfriend treats me so well and I'm so attracted to him. Even dealing with distance it's no struggle to choose him every day. It's sucky to be apart from him, but that's my only struggle about being with him. Even with him so far away it's no struggle at all not cheating on him. I can't wait for a future with him where I won't have to part with him. Until then I just choose to be his every day and count the days until I get to see him again.